Men are defying the stereotype of the clumsy, uncommunicative father and husband in droves, finds a new book, VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework, and Commitment by Neil Chethik. The author spoke to 70 straight men ages 22 to 95 face-to-face (and polled 288 on the phone) about their feelings toward their significant others and families. They affirmed some of the old tropes “men are less verbal” and defied others, “men don’t do housework.” From the sound of it this goes well beyond John Gray-style stereotyping––Chethik talked to real men in formal, anonymous interviews––and comes out with a more nuanced view of relationships. An article in yesterday’s Salon explored these issues with the author.