It’s time to reinvent Valentine’s Day. While an evening of oysters, chocolate, and champagne may dazzle the taste buds momentarily, these old-school aphrodisiacs often leave lovebirds stuffed and sluggish.

This year, keep your head clear, your stomach light, and your heart open. Skip the edible aphrodisiacs for an herbal variation. Many essential oils will help to enhance that romantic feeling. Some oils decrease tension (it’s tough to feel sexy when you’re stressed), some trigger a calming, hypnotic sensation, and others target emotional issues that get in the way of a smooth romantic encounter (lack of confidence or self consciousness, depression, anxiety, etc.).