So what does this have to do with sleeping? Newborn babies sleep a lot - 16-20 hours a day, but they also wake frequently to eat, usually every 1-3 hours, with one long stretch of 4-5 hours of sleep over 24 hours. This frequent waking and needing to eat means sleep deprivation for the new parent.
When does it end? Sleeping through the night usually starts between 6 weeks and 6 months of age and contrary to common perception, does not correspond with how much a baby weighs or if it has started eating solids. So how can you encourage your baby to sleep through the night?
Start by establishing certain routines right from the beginning. Keep nighttime quiet. Leave the lights off as much as possible, change a diaper only if necessary, and resist the temptation to play with the baby at 2 AM. For nursing mothers, lying down to nurse makes nighttime feeds easy, and also allows a mutually restful time for both mother and baby.
Co-sleeping (a mother sleeping with her infant) is also a good idea. While a modern, western view suggests that isolating a baby from its mother for sleeping is a good idea, scientific studies and common sense show that separation of mother and infant is not necessary. A mother's sounds, breathing patterns and smells all contribute to the regulation of the infant's breathing, arousal patterns, heart rates, sleep state, and body temperature.
Dr. James McKenna of Notre Dame University says in Rethinking "Healthy" Infant Sleep that we need to determine if unrealistic parental expectations, rather than infant pathology, play a role in creating parent-infant sleep struggles - one of the most ubiquitous pediatric problems in the country. It may well be that it is not in the biological best interest of all infants to sleep through the night, in a solitary environment, as early in life as we may wish, even though it is more convenient if they did so."
So even though it means interrupted sleep for mom and dad, a waking baby is a healthy baby. Just think about how often you would eat if you were trying to double your weight in four months! Odds are that you would interrupt your own sleep to get the job done.
We always turned the lights off at night and once it was bedtime we never talked to our son. Just fed him and put him back in the crib. He seemed to learn the difference in behavior between night and day within weeks and was sleeping through the night within months. (Or, maybe like my wife, he just genetically liked to sleep and we were lucky!)
Also, there has been research about infant deaths tied to sleeping in the same bed with parents. So, unless you are a sound, still sleeper there is some risk with this co-sleeper stuff.
My little baby, Sienna is finally sleeping for longer stretches!
The first several weeks of her life she just didn't sleep for more than an hour at a time! I was nursing constantly and getting more and more sleep deprived!
Now she's 14 weeks old, and for the last two weeks she has been taking one to two naps during the day. Still short ones - 1 -2 hours, and sleeping in 4-6 hours stretches through the night.
We were co-sleeping at first and that made bonding wonderful, but sleep near impossible.
Now I've put my little Sienna into her own crib and she is sleeping just fine. We get to bond tons with the breastfeeding - still every three to four hours.
I look forward to sharing more!
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