if i believe in soulmates. i think the people in your life come to you or you gravitate to each other but i dont think i believe in one person that is your match.

Once in your lifetime you will meet that one person where everything just "clicks"

I completely believe this and have experienced it myself. It's rare to find that person, but when you do, you both know inherently that there is a reason the two of you are together. For those that have experienced this...you're lucky...for those that have not..keep looking that special someone might be right around the corner.

I dont know how I got to be 45 without finding my soul mate but I'm very thankful that I found him! My partner and I are so in tune with each other and when we met it was as if the planets and stars were all aligning in our favour. Incredible moments transpired, mountains moved, volcanos erupted and precious moments were born. Yes I believe in soulmates!

I am happy to hear that many of you are believers.  It's good to keep in mind that just because you have found your soul mate doesn't mean that you always are on the same wavelength.  My soul mate and I don't always connect, but when we are going through a bad patch it is nice to know that we have a connection that runs deep and will see us through.  I agree that when you find the person and the planets are alligned, it is the BEST feeling ever.

Just because everything "clicks" ...it does not mean that life forever more will be like walking on roses.

Like any relationship, there will be bumps on the road, but the strength within that relationship makes it possible to overcome the "bad patches" and sometimes, the comfort of knowing that your significant other is "the one" makes it easier to have those bad patches, because you both know that there is this deep connection and strength between the two of you, that will get you through anything that could challenge you.

I think it abouts faith.  Faith that you have chosen someone who understands who and what you are at your core.  I know that sounds corney, but sometimes in life things just don't make sense and people don't always react in logical ways.  Knowing that you can share moments of difficulty with someone is quite intense.  I always appreciate that I am very fortunate to have someone love me, even when they don't like me.

I have to say that even though I am happily married, I'm not sure I believe in soulmates. I think it depends on what one's definition of a soulmate is. Is it someone you can depend on? Someone who balances you, loves you, understands you? Is it someone who ignites you, brings out the passion in you, knows what you are thinking, before you do. Who gets you like no other? Is there really someone out there who can do all this?

I think that if you question this, that you may not have found your soul mate.  I think that "soul" is the operative word, not necessarily mate.  When you talk about having someone know your soul, you are talking about them knowing the core of who you are.  That happens with friends too.  Sometimes you connect with someone who just seems to know you. Someone who you can talk to freely, spend time with unconditionally and allows you to just be yourself.  I don't think soulmate only relates to your partner.

...and lived happily ever after. Marriage and love "forever" are the fruit of a period that is perhaps rather alien to the world as we know it today in the 21st century. Thanks to the best living standards mankind has ever enjoyed in history, in concert with all the progress in medecine and sciences, in what is still a peaceful era, it is not uncommon to see couples celebrating their 25th or even 50th wedding anniversary. In the years when the Church ruled, one of the partners was most likely to be taken by war, the plague or whatever long before that. They also didn't have as much time for leasure as we did, with longer work days and more babies to tend to - that also translates into less time to (dis)connect.

 Today, love is a choice, not your family's socio-economic based decision. And divorce hasn't got the stigma it used to.

 Yes, soulmates exist, be it as friends or lovers. Someone with whom you feel as one, connected emotionally and spiritually. Someone with whom you can share anything, both with and without the use of words. Whether soulmates remain forever on the same path is a tougher question. Though it is our great ideal to share the same road to the grave, we can still cherish nice memories of beautiful stretches travelled together with a person that is dear to us.

 

- Truth hath a quiet breast. Shakespeare, Richard II.

You bring up an interesting point.  Do soulmates have to last forever or can we have many soulmates along the way?  I always felt haviang a soulmate meant one person, yet as I change, I wonder if what I need from a soulmate will change too?

I think people get confused by the "mate" part. I consider my husband my "soulsharer" because that's what we do. But also, my mother is my soulsharer as are my sister and brother. My very best friend is my soulsharer; we may as well have shared the same womb. I believe that when you give of yourself spiritually to someone you love, cherish and trust, you share your soul. I am a world traveler and I have shared my soul with people who don't even speak the same language but we had so many things in common, we knew instinctively that we were linked. And maybe we shouldn't limit ourselves to just human souls.

 

K. P. Fears

" Is not life a hundred times too short for us to bore ourselves?" - Friedrich Nietzsche

I think that you can share your soul with someone other than your mate.  My best friend and I were immediately connected and have been for over 30 years.  I posed that question above about expanding the realm for what a soul mate means.   

Soul mates do happen, but it may take a few life times for you to meet up.  I believe once you have found each other, though, you will always be able to find each other again.  Unfortuantely, I'm still looking.  I've had some spectacular failures so far, but I keep trying.  And seeing how many other believe, I'm glad I'm on the right track!

How I'm currently perceiving this, is that I may have many soulmates, like close family members such as my mother, father, "best" friends, and even some past lovers. I also feel that soulmates can be those who have challenged us the most to a point that has made us stand up for someone or something. Kind of like a "soul circle" of beings that have incarnated with the purpose of connecting with each other again and perhaps many lifetimes. 
Maybe to make it so broad as saying that all souls creating the "earth experience" are soulmates. If our universe is infinate and expanding from infinity (a theory of course:) and if there are an infinate number of universes... The amount of individuations of Source engery (aka souls, including animals, land air and sea) on this tiny planet earth in the Milky Way galaxy of infinate galaxies... Maybe we are all soulmates with amnesia that desire and are thirsting to remember each other in loving ways and the earth as a loving place to create that. And perhaps when we catch a glimpse of that with another, we feel that "soulmate" connection that we've all perhaps came here to experience. 
For those magical, just utterly loving and amazing souls that seem to compliment another with a connection like no other. I've heard of something called one's "twin flame." Like it's the same soul individuation, that split up and is able to see and experience itself through the other, almost as the other experiences itself. A relationship so amazing and loving that it's like experiencing heaven when in eachothers energy.
Does anyone have any more insights about a "twin flame?"


"It's never too late to begin anew."

I have never experienced "twin flame" when as I started this discussion, but I have found a soul mate in my husband.  The expression must have come from twins, in that they are connected by genetics that no one can come between them.  I have had friends that I experience that with more than a lover.  I do believe that we many of us have met in some previous time and we may be searching to reconnect with each other.  Wasn't there a movie with Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves about just this thing?  Interesting thought though!

 I always liked the phrase "Kindred Spirits" better then "Soulmates" The soul can be a scary place.

 

 

 

 

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

 

 

When I think of the phrase kindred spirits I always think  of the book Anne of Green Gables.  She always used that phrase.  "Kindred" to me means that people are more alike and "soul mate" intimates that they accept you as you are.  Either way, if you have found one, good for you!!

I think I have a different view then most on the soul..... When I think of SOULS connecting I think of SOUL TIES!. I don't know? My mind is crazy enough without connecting it to some one else's. It may depend on if you believe that the mind and the soul are one in the same? I do have a great husband/friend/enemy...... But I don't want his soul or anyone else's tied to mine!!!!. Answering for my soul will be enough.

However, the term "soul mate" can be a romantic one and I do think if anyone believes they have found one, thats awesome for them! :) :)

 

 

 

 

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body, balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

I think that soul can also mean " essence".  Being connected to ones soul and having found someone who you feel understands who you are at your core being is what I feel comfortable with. I wouldn't use the word mind when I think of the term soulmates.  My mind is what I use to think with and my soul is "who" I am.

Again it is always going to be based on what each of us believe, I think of my SPIRIT being the "ESSENCE" of who I am.  It is the essential part of me, (the most important,purest part of me.) You may hear someone say " she has a gentle SPIRIT" ( Well actually I have heard  "gentle SOUL")  , but I still believe the soul is anything but gentle!

 

I look at my SOUL as being my WILL, my intellect(MIND), my EMOTIONS, and my PERSONALITY.  That part of me is flawed and imperfect, It is me however and there are positive things about it.  I think the soul  is perhaps the strongest part of us and can be the most deceptive!  

 

I look at myself in three parts:  BODY.......SOUL......SPIRIT........

 

  Going off subject just a little, a really great movie if you haven't already watched it is... "What the bleep do you know" and " Down the Rabbit hole" 

 

I want you to know that I completely respect how you think, feel, and believe!!!! It is fun to share different ways of looking at things. :) 

 

 

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

It is always interesting to share different point of views.  That is what keeps the forums interesting.  You make me think about the different aspects of who I am.

 

 I think who you are must be a very insightful & interesting person.

I like discovering new things about myself. I learn a lot by seeing, and hearing how other people think,  feel, and perceive things.

 

 

 

 

 

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

I don't know about that, but thank you.  Sometimes my husband doesn't wish I was so insightful and keep my thoughts to myself.  As he says, when I have a thought, just let it pass!

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

 

 

 

Do you think my husband and yours know each other? LOL. My husband just tells me I am thinking way too loud. I don't even have to talk. But it's all good.

My suggestion though, is to definatley not let insightful thoughts pass. You have them for good reasons, could save his life one day!!!! Ya never know! :)

I am definitely not a wallflower and always speak my mind. I am not a women who is seen and not heard, that is for sure.  I think it just makes him love me and my "soul" more. If you never question things, you always come up with the same answers, how boring!

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

 

 Not a wall flower, but a rose!!!!!  Definitely  two different flowers....

 I didn't think you sounded like a wall flower. I have read a few things you  wrote!!!

What do you mean "If you never question things, you always come up with the same answers" I mean...... "what are you referring to", when you say that?  :)  

I was just using the term wall flower to let you know that I don't always listen to my husband, that's all. 

This is off topic of soul mates, but what I meant was if you never question how or why things are done the way they are, than you are just accepting that things are just fine the way they are and that is not always the best way.

Does that make sense?  I seem to question why things are the way they are and my husband thinks that is funny sometimes. Some of mt questions can be off the wall and we get a chuckle!

 

our eyes rest on the edge between the mind and the body balanced on the thin line we hope is sanity..... walter shawlee 2

 

This has gone off topic.........EVERYthing you said in the post above, reMINDs me SO much of one of my best friends. She is the same way with questions and I always laugh.....but you are right, if you don't question, then you can limit your self. I think I have been guilty of that!!!!  . I guess that is why the world is made up of different kinds of people , HOPEfully to learn from each other, not to mention,it would be very b-o-r-e-i-n-g.......................

There was a quote on the LIME site about just that the other day.  Questioning makes life interesting!!