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Instructions For Happiness
Posted by Su Avasthi on August 5, 2007 - 5:50pm.

There are, at minimum, 20 techniques to make the pursuit of happiness a little easier.

At least that's the idea behind Time's Special Report on the subject. It seems that the latest science (and apparently, it is a science) is focused on ways to be happier as a whole, rather than on how to fix problems like depression, anxiety, and such. In other words, what factors enable us to thrive, flourish, and insist that the glass is half-full.

Each of the 20 ways to be happier is explored on their site. The techniques they mentioned were based on the International Conference on Happiness and Its Causes.

A lot of them are no-brainers, such as: "Move your body," (tip #5) "Smile," (tip #19) "Laugh big," (tip #6) "Do something nice for someone else," (tip #7) and "Snog. Canoodle. Get it on" (tip # 3). Oh, and money doesn't hurt either (tip #8).

But there are also a few concepts which may not be as obvious as those. For instance, "Tell your story to someone" (tip # 14).

Telling stories, it seems, does two things to boost our emotions. First, it allows our memories to filter out negative aspects of the story, while retaining and re-framing the positive points. Second, telling a negative or embarrassing story to several people lessens the sting. (Although, I can think of a few embarrassing stories that would make very unhappy if I broadcast them.)

Another was "Identify with your heritage" (tip #10). Apparently, people are less stressed and happier when they appreciate their culture and feel a kinship towards their ethnicity.

Also new to me was "Play the part of an optimist," (tip #12) which posits that optimism is a learned skill. We can cultivate an optimistic streak in three distinct ways: Stand up straight (no kidding), speak in a cheerful, upbeat tone, and use happier words (as in, losing your job is such a great way to find time to smell the roses).

In the same vein is "Use happy memories as a guide," (tip #11) which means that we're happier when we base decisions on good memories, rather than bad ones.

Overall, if happiness experts are willing to zero in on a list of way to make me smile, I'm happy to try to it out.

I have to say, the idea that happiness is largely within our control makes me pretty happy in itself.



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learning a subject
by Vicki_R on August 6, 2007 - 2:51pm
It seems so easy, but having being optimistic and having a positive attitude is like learning a new subject to some people.  It is so much easier to complain and b--ch.  I know that when I get together with people I feel comfortable with and have something in common, I do feel happier and when you're happy, you light up and attract people.
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Effort needed
by Statuesqueone on August 6, 2007 - 2:57pm
This looks like it would take a lot of effort to be happy. I had always hoped that happiness would just come to me some day, like I deserved to be happy. I know that I'm not a happy person in general so I've been waiting for the happiness fairy to wave her magic wand over me.

Based on this report it looks like I have to work at making my own happiness. Some of these seem relatively easy to accomplish. Tip #8, make more money,  may be a little more challenging as I work at a University that is governed by Unions and raises don't come easily. Guess there's always the option to get a second job......
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in the moment
by dancingqueen on August 6, 2007 - 7:47pm
Happiness is a relative thing.  My husband does not need much to be happy and material things really don't matter to him.  He delights in our children and hanging out with me.  I wish I could learn from him.  He says if I wait to become happy I never will. I will always be searching for something more to make me happy.  He is right.  Happiness is in the moment.
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Let happiness find you.
by a.cabral on August 7, 2007 - 9:47am

People "try" to hard to find happiness.  When really you are relaxed, passionate about something and focused on the now -- that is when happiness finds you.  I wrote an article on it...

http://allisonwincabral.blogspot.com/2007/07/let-happiness-find-you.html
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is it real
by dancingqueen on August 24, 2007 - 1:14pm
Caught Oprah yesterday while folding laundry and the show was on how to find happiness.  I listened for awhile but I always wonder if you can really teach yourself to be happy.  This psychlogist said you could.  I always think that he is just trying to hawk his book.  I do believe that we are all capable of achieving happiness, but we need to know what that level of happiness is.

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